When I first heard about Bespoke Personality, I was a bit skeptical. I thought I was going to be put into a nice, neat box, the key would be thrown away, and I would be told to use ‘bridge therapy’ (get over it!) to deal with the hard knocks of life.
However, when I opened my mind and started to really know what it was all about, I became quite intrigued. I realized that opportunities could have been missed. I describe this knowledge like something similar to the film ‘Sliding Doors’—you can miss great opportunities to make the most from your life by having more information to make informed choices.
I will give you some examples from my life:
1. As a young naive mother with no family support, I wanted to give my boys the best childhood ever. I read the books, watched the videos, and asked advice; however, if I had known about the power of personality back in the day, it would have enlightened me about some of my traits I need to be aware of, which I could have used effectively as a parent. I am not saying I was a lousy parent, but I could have prevented some tense moments by understanding my limitations and expectations and cannot expect others to have those same limitations and expectations.
2. In the workplace I am very ambitious, I do not like the grass to grow under my feet. I have made many mistakes again, by having the expectation that others have the traits as me. I do not mind telling you, I use to scare the hell out of some people, and I couldn’t understand why! I also missed opportunities by being too agreeable (that does not mean I would say yes to everyone, agreeable means something quite different in the world of psychological science), but I always wanted to appease everyone, I wanted the world to be happy, not realizing that this was not to my benefit in the long term.
3. Relationships, I am no good at relationships! The old rule of 80/20 does not work with me, its 100% or nothing. Well, this could have lost me the opportunity of missing out on a great relationship, a kind-hearted, generous, loving, caring man, who would do anything for me. He can also be a cantankerous, self-opinionated, and a miserable individual. Bespoke Personality gave me the tools to make an informed decision on what I was prepared to accept. Caring vs cantankerous (he is quite funny sometimes when he gets into these moods) kind-hearted vs self-opinionated (I am probably a little self-opinionated too, some would say), and so on.
So, all in all, my testimonial here is to encourage you to give Bespoke Personality a test drive, you have got nothing to lose but an awful lot to gain. Prof Corr will give you insights that you have never heard before, which will help you with many areas of your life.
I suggest you take a look around the website to see if it is for you. I know Prof. Corr is very approachable (he prefers to be called 'Philip') so if you get in touch I am sure he would be happy to answer your questions as he answered mine.